2020 has definitely been a special year. A year of growth and collective healing. It’s been a great time to really learning lessons and expanding our individual consciousness if we’ve been taking advantage of the opportunities that have presented themselves.
Some very valuable lessons have really been hitting home for me this year.
Here are the lessons I learned so far in 2020:
1. Self-love changes everything.
Yes, we hear about the importance of self-love all the time. And there’s a reason why learning this lesson is especially important.
When we care about ourselves, we have healthy boundaries. When we love who we are, we naturally choose to surround ourselves with people who will reflect our worth back to us.
When we are our own best friend and cheerleader we no longer find ourselves in the prison of caring what other people think about us. Learning self-love lesson leads to freedom from seeking external validation.
2. Inner work is the real work
This is one of those truths that need to be experienced. It cannot be taught, we have to live it. And I’ve definitely experienced this a lot in 2020.
The truth is that our outer world is simply a reflection of our inner world. So, If we want to change our outer reality the answer is to change our inner world.
Then, our outer reality becomes a reflection of our inner state. So if we are at peace within, there will peace “out there” as well.
3. There is no one size fits all!
“The shoe that fits one person pinches another. There is no recipe for living that suits all cases.” – Carl Jung.
This lesson is vitally important. We must remember that no matter how right a decision was for somebody else, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s right for us.
We can listen to other people’s opinions, perspectives, and advice. However, ultimately we are on our own unique life path and we must always check in with ourselves.
4. Peace comes with detachment
Buddha suggested that the root of our suffering is attachment. When we cling to some desire it takes away our mental peace.
Now, entering a state of non-attached doesn’t mean not caring about anything. It’s about learning that we’re going to be okay whether or not something manifests in our outer reality. It’s about not needing it in order to feel okay.
Whenever we feel like we need something so badly that we don’t feel okay without it, we suffer. Whatever material thing we are seeking – whether it’s success, more money, or a specific partner, we must learn to be okay without it.
The ironic thing, though, is that when we finally learn this lesson and detach, we often attract our desires effortlessly. This is because we’re finally in a state of alignment.
5. Control is an illusion
The sooner we learn this lesson the better, and 2020 has definitely been teaching is this. There are certain things in life we do have control over (e.g. how we show up every day).
However, there are also many things happening in our life that are beyond our control. The faster we realize and accept this, the more we can relax into the flow and let life happen for us.
6. We must be our authentic selves
This is one of the most important lessons of all. We have to honor ourselves and celebrate our uniqueness because each of us plays an irreplaceable role here on Earth.
There’s only one of you. There’s only one of me.
And to be able to serve our purpose in the world. We must play our role. And play it well.
7. Non-action is just as important as action
This lesson was important for me to learn. And 2020 has been a year where I’ve really seen the value of good rest.
We all know taking action is important, as we’ve been living in a masculine dominant world where it’s easy to measure our worth in productivity.
However, this year of slowing down has really taught me how resting and making time for joy has made me a better creator.
8. Nothing in life is inherently good or bad
“Nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” – Shakespeare.
Nothing in life is either good or bad. We are the ones who create the meaning.
Quite often we may believe that something negative is happening to us, only to discover that it was a blessing in disguise. With our minds, we decide what something means. And as we heal, our meaning often changes as we experience a change in perspective.
9. Life is experienced in a spectrum
Green is a different color than orange, but is it better? Well, obviously that will depend on the person who’s being asked the question. The truth though, is that we need one to recognize the other.
Carl Jung says: “The word “happy” would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness”
We may not like the tough moments as much as the joyful moments. However, it’s important to remember that it’s the painful moments that make us recognize the joyful ones. And in this way, they create each other.
10. It’s not always about us
This is definitely a lesson to integrate during the year of 2020. Countless times during this year, I’ve been having days where I’ve felt heavy energy, and often I’ve been attempting to rationalize this experience.
I’ve come to realize that what I am experiencing is not just mine but a collective experience. We are feeling the incredibly intense energy on the planet this year, with many truths rising to the surface.
We, humans, are sensitive beings, and it’s only natural that we’re affected by all of the shifts and changes occurring. And the year 2020 has definitely been a year of collective emotional turbulence. It’s important to check in for what is yours and what you might be sensing in your greater environment.
11. Making mistakes is part of life
No one on Earth is perfect, and we are not asked to be. It’s okay to make mistakes. And yes, it’s okay if we make the same mistake twice, or even several times, as long as we eventually learn from them.
The biggest mistake I made in life was not taking action out of fear of making a mistake. Our past mistakes are valuable teachers and not something to try to avoid.
12. It’s okay to burn some bridges.
As compassionate human beings, it can be hard to let go of the people we love. We naturally want to help the people we care about. This is a wonderful thing.
However, sometimes we must ask ourselves if we are hindering our own evolution by holding on to someone that’s not a good influence on us.
It’s wonderful to have a loving, compassionate heart, but we must take care of ourselves as well. If we’re to have compassion for others, we must have compassion for ourselves too, and sometimes that requires letting go.
13. There is power in surrendering
Another important lesson I’ve learned in 2020, is that sometimes the best thing we can do is to completely surrender. Many times, I’ve found it to be useful to put my hands up in the air, admit that I can’t see the next step of my journey and I’ve asked Mother Universe to guide me.
Whenever I’ve trusted in Divine guidance this way, I have been able to move forward with a peace of mind. I have learned that if I can’t figure out what to do next, all I have to do is ask for help from life and trust that whatever ideas and solutions come through for me will be beneficial.
14. Working hard isn’t always the answer
Having an incredible work ethic is a wonderful thing. It’s also great to be productive and able to get things done.
However, if we find that despite of our consistent efforts, nothing is moving forward, then we need to take a step back and take a closer look at what we’re doing. Spending time on something that isn’t working, is a waste.
15. Change is always happening
Yes, change can be really scary. The reason why it may feel uncomfortable is that whenever something is changing in our lives, we are finding ourselves in unknown territory.
2020 has definitely been a year of many visible changes, and it’s been a great reminder of the truth that change is constant. And if we are able to move with the changes, we can be more at peace.
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